3 Things You Should Never Do After a Breakup/Divorce or Bad Experience

We all go through life and relationship challenges but focusing on the bad experience or breakup/divorce does not resolve the problems. Asking yourself the question, "What happens next?" is essential to you going forward and growing in your life and journey.

Here are three things you should NEVER do after a bad life experience or breakup/divorce:

Focus on the problem(s): Magnifying the problem does not resolve the issues at hand but creates more problems. Rather than dwelling on the problems, focus on how to overcome and learn from the experiences."The minute you make the negative choice to enlarge the problem, you have chosen to retard your growth and invite unhappiness into your life." - Kemi Sogunle
Blame others: Never blame others for the lessons you are learning during your life's journey. Instead of blaming others, CHOOSE to evaluate the situation and ask yourself the following questions:
What did you accept/tolerate?
How well did you know yourself?
What made you settle?
You will learn so much about the experiences than build up walls of resentment and bitterness.
Hold on to the emotions and pain: Choosing to hold on to negative emotions, thoughts or pain, will result in self-doubt and hate. You will gradually begin to lose your confidence and trust. Learn to let go of anything that no longer serves you.

You may not realize this but when life happens unexpectedly, it is usually based on your perception of you believing you no longer need to grow. You may say to yourself, "There's no need for me to change who I am." Reality is that if you dwell on this myth, you will base your life on ignorance.

"The level of your ignorance is based on what you know, your fears and ego. What you do not know is what allows you to grow. What you know is what makes you remain stagnant. Life is not stagnant but dynamic. Embracing your learning process will allow you to continue to become who God created you to be (not who you think you should be)." - Kemi Sogunle

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