10 Reasons Why Couples Take to Divorce

Divorce isn’t an easy decision as many people think and there are underlying conditions that the couple may not be consciously aware of before getting a divorce.

Here are 10 reasons why couples head into a divorce:

1. Buried/Unhealed childhood emotional trauma.

2. Lack of self-awareness (not knowing who you are as an individual before getting into a relationship).

3. Coping mechanisms which later become overwhelming and no longer bearable.

4. Comparison of relationship/marriage with others while forgetting that every marriage is unique.

5. Repeating generational patterns and cycles they mirrored in caregivers/parental/family marriages or relationships.

6. Societal illusions that cloud their judgement on what marriage should be.

7. Lack of vision and relationship goals as well as not sharing core values that demonstrates that the partners complement each other.

8. Immaturity and lack of emotional intelligence.

9. Lack of self-love and respect contributes to why one may become a codependent in the marriage and when needs are not met, conflicts begin.

10. Unrealistic expectations and not meeting the individual needs which creates a transactional relationship that is based on coping mechanisms, unhealthy emotional habits and patterns.

As a certified coach who works with couples and have had divorced couples reunite and remarry, taking the time to know and understand oneself  is very vital. This makes it easier to know and understand your partner.

Marriage isn’t based on romance but most go in for romance and transaction. The more you become clear on meeting your needs and understand your relationship requirements based on your core values, the less you are likely to rush into a marriage that will end up in a divorce.

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