10 Ways to Get Over a Toxic Relationship

Going through a toxic relationship can take a toll on you.

However, you must work on getting over such a relationship and understand that you are embarking on a journey to becoming better in your life's journey.

Here are 10 Ways to Get Over a Toxic Relationship:

1. Take time to grieve. Accept what was and choose to accept what is while letting go of what is gone. You cannot change the past, but you must focus on the present moment you have.
2. Focus on the lessons. What did you learn about yourself? What did you learn about your life and relationship goals? What lessons will you implement in your life going forward to ensure you are not going to repeat patterns?

   Always remember:

   “The most painful moments and memories eventually lead to the greatest strengths and growth in life.” ― Kemi Sogunle, excerpt, "On Becoming Restored." Copyright © 2014. All Rights Reserved.

3. Forgive yourself. You did not know what you now have learnt about yourself in the past.  Forgiveness allows you to become open to loving yourself.

   “You cannot love if you cannot forgive.” ― Kemi Sogunle, excerpt, "Beyond the Pain" Copyright © 2014. All Rights Reserved.

4. Work on healing and loving yourself. The love you have for yourself allows the potential partners see how you need to be loved. It also allows you to attract love to yourself.
5. Create your inner circle. Surround yourself with those who truly understand what love is and who are on the healing journey. Have people who can support you (and vice versa) in your circle.
6.  Take one day at a time. Healing is a lifetime process and will require that you take one day at a time as you work on the self-discovery and healing journey.
7. Journal. Write down your thoughts and examine them. Incorporate meditation into your day and journal your thoughts afterwards.
8. Don't jump into another relationship. You may feel lonely or needy but remember that this is not the time for sexationships, situationships or rebounds. It is time to focus on doing the work in your own life.
9. Exercise and don't pacify yourself. Incorporate exercise into your routine in order to regulate your body. Don't pacify yourself with alcohol, sex or shopping.
10. Get professional support. Hire a coach or therapist that can support and guide you through the healing process (you will still have to do the healing work with support).

Always remember:

“Staying in an unhealthy relationship that robs you of peace of mind, is not being loyal. It is choosing to hurt yourself mentally, emotionally and sometimes, physically.” ― Kemi Sogunle, "Beyond the Pain." Copyright © 2014. All Rights Reserved.

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