How to Handle Your Parents’ Divorce

Watching your parents go through a divorce can be tough especially with mixed emotions. Allow yourself to feel whatever it is you are feeling and allow yourself to learn what those feelings are teach you about yourself.

Oftentimes, we think our parents’ divorce is our responsibility. However, it is part of their own journey in life.

The Lessons We Learn Through Our Parents' Divorce

Reality is whatever we learn from our parents’ journeys, should teach us about things we should not repeat in our own lives.

• Allow their experience to teach you lessons about relationships.
• Allow their experience to lead you to gain a deeper understanding about loving yourself deeply before anyone else.
• Allow their experience to teach you how to break generational patterns and cycles.
• Allow their experience to teach you to set your relationship requirements and the non-negotiable ones.
• Allow yourself to process each emotion and feeling and remember this:

“Emotions and Feelings carry expiration dates and are not meant to last a lifetime.” - Kemi Sogunle, excerpt, "On Becoming Restored." Copyright ©2014, Kemi Sogunle. All Rights Reserved.

• Allow yourself to love your parents as individuals and as your parents irrespective of what they are going through.
• Get professional support when needed. Decide on who you want to stay with and who you will be visiting as well as on which days.
• Allow yourself to find your inner strength and peace.

Remember this:
“Your thoughts are not facts and you must be the tame your thoughts and not let your thoughts tame you.” - Kemi Sogunle

• Take one day at a time, go for long walks when needed. Practice deep breathing and meditation/prayer.
• Allow yourself to embrace this as part of your life’s journey. They are working on their own journeys. You are learning from their journeys.

Remember this: This is a test for you to discover your strength so that you can thrive beyond it.

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