5 Reasons Why You Aren’t Healing

Healing is a lifetime process but knowing where to begin can sometimes be challenging.

Here are 5 Reason You Aren't Healing or Choosing the Healing Process:

1. Failing to take time to grieve. Grieving allows you to self-reflect. However, it usually begins with denial. Hence, why we sometimes run away from the healing process. We want to remain in denial that the situations never happened but we must face the situations in order to learn the lessons and emerge.Once you can accept what was and is, you will be able to move along the grieving process. Grieving also allows you to gain an understanding of how you hold on to pain.
2. Fear of being alone. Being afraid of spending time alone will halt the healing process. Being alone may sometimes make you feel as if you are missing out but the reality is that being alone allows you to introspect and spend time knowing yourself.You will have the time to gain clarity, brainstorm and explore some of the emotional wounds that may have led you going down the wrong path or halted your growth journey.
3. Lack of conscious awareness.  Not being consciously aware of the choices we make when we are operating from an unhealthy state of mind can lead to irrational decision making, connecting to more painful processes or trauma bonding with others while being codependent.In order to heal, you must become intentional about gaining a conscious awakening to who you are and your life's journey of purpose. Gaining the conscious awareness to heal your mind, soul and body is liberating and brings you peace as well as freedom to be yourself, love yourself and find your purpose in life.
4.  Not wanting to unlearn habits and patterns. Limited beliefs that are birthed from an unconscious state of being, generational habits and patterns and unhealthy coping mechanisms can be hard to unlearn. However, without making an attempt to unlearn these, we become stuck in life's journey.You must learn to unlearn habits and patterns that result in unhealthy lifestyle for you to become healthy and attract healthy relationships. Always remember that you cannot keep repeating patterns and expect change to happen. Change requires learning new ways of doing things.
5.  Not exploring your life goals and vision. Not having a clear vision or set goals for your life can leave you stuck in life. This is one of the reasons why we end up in relationships that deplete us.Your life goals and vision will be your driver for the relationship meant for you as well as friendship and career.

"The moment you learn to separate your wants from your needs, your vision becomes clearer, your circle becomes smaller and your life becomes easier." - Kemi Sogunle

Healing allows you to focus on your life goals and vision as well as purpose. You are able to understand those you need and those who are in alignment with your life's purpose and vision.

Understand that healing is a lifetime process. You don't heal at once and it cannot be rushed. Healing helps you gain a deeper understanding of who you are.

Healing frees your body of the retention of pain/trauma that sends you into freeze, flight or fight moods. Healing brings you peace of mind and freedom. Healing helps you gain clarity and unclutters your mindset while keeping you in alignment...spirit, body, soul and mind.

You will keep unfolding layers of emotional wounds/trauma as you continue to heal yourself, gain an awareness of who you are...the triggers and how your body reacts or shuts down, set healthy boundaries and move "Beyond the Pain to "Becoming Restored."

Want to know more about healing yourself, setting goals and establishing your life's vision? Schedule a complimentary session with me to get started on the journey to a new you!

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