Can You Truly Love Someone and Choose to Say Goodbye?

I have been asked this question so many times in the past two months and I wanted to share my views on loving someone and saying goodbye.

Read my views below:

You cannot truly love someone and walk away when you are both operating in a healthy space.

The question is: "Was it really love or was it codependency/transactional love?"

I believe a lot of people confuse what true love is with transactional love. Hence, why we find ourselves in unhealthy relationships due to lack of self-love and self-abandonment. If you truly love someone, you will never leave them.

True love is based on knowing yourself and your partner is a reflection of who you are. Unhealed wounds allow us to settle and attract a reflection on the unhealthy nature of who we are when we haven’t healed from emotional pain/trauma.

Read this to better understand what love is so you never have to confuse love with the idea of the persona you have created in regards to falling in love:

The Difference Between Falling in Love and Loving Someone.

Falling in love stems from an idea to find a rescuer to take away one’s emotional wounds/trauma and it is based on a selfish transaction and motive.

Love is not a choice... if is life and for a lifetime. Love is part of who you are and everyone was born with and in love. It is based on commitment and is never a transaction. Choosing to make yourself a priority will bring people into your who will make you a priority. We are who we accept and what we accept. If you accept less based on unrealistic expectations, you will end up being disappointed.

Read this: 12 Things Every Couple Must Do to Sustain a Relationship.

Schedule a complimentary session with me to learn how to attract and find the right partner if you are single or learn how to build a solid foundation for a healthy and long lasting relationship as a couple.

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