Breaking Generational Patterns of Trauma Dumping

Growing up in an environment where there is unresolved emotional trauma, results in us acquiring the pain/trauma as we mirror our caregivers/parents.

Trauma dumping happens when unresolved trauma is unsconsciously dumped through anger, venting and punishment and the receiver becomes overwhelmed and drained.

Trauma dumping may also result in trauma bonding especially when there is codependency involved.

We go on to repeat the same patterns in our relationship without the conscious awareness.

This is why you may find yourself meeting someone and sharing the traumatic experiences of your past. Suddenly, you feel you have both a lot in common without being conscious aware that you were emotionally dumping your traumas on each other's laps and forming a trauma bond.

This also leads to fantasies and illusions with the hope that the other person will rescue you from the past. Expectations are thus set and when not met, the relationship falls apart. Disappointments set in but the major takeaway should be the lessons learned from such relationship.

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