Why Labeling Others Reveals More About You

We live in a society where labels are used loosely to describe people without necessarily understanding their behavior. Some of their behavior may be associated with the painful experience/trauma that they are dealing with or going through.

Labels are a sign of judgement based on where you are operating from at the present moment or issues you may have buried and have not addressed. If we all take a pause and examine our lives, we will discover the hidden and unhealed parts of us that cause us to label others.

Here are some ways labeling others reveals more about you:

If you criticize others about their lifestyle, it reveals you may have issues with your lifestyle that makes you doubt your own abilities or defines some weaknesses you are yet to turn into strengths.
If you label those who are struggling and striving to become better based on where you are, you may have issues with your self-esteem but appear overly confident. The truth is that no one is better than others. We are all here on earth to learn about ourselves and figure out our journeys at our own pace. The ability to achieve something at a faster pace does not make others less than you.“Life is a journey…not a race. Everyone’s timing is different and choosing to respect other people’s timing is a sign that you understand what love means.” – Kemi Sogunle
Having resentment towards others is a sign of anger or jealousy. You may be intimated by others and it shows there are areas of your life that you need to work on. They will awaken you to see why you need to work on those areas. Recognizing this as a conscious awakening to areas you need to improve, will significantly benefit you if you choose to embrace it and begin to change your life for the better.Read this: What is Your Perception of Yourself?
If you label others as abusers (e.g. rapist, narcissist, etc.), it shows you may have underlying pain/trauma that attracts those people into your life…pain/trauma that you need to heal from.

“Pain always attracts pain. If you attract pain, you still have hidden pain/trauma you need to heal from.” – Kemi Sogunle

Understand that Someone's Behavior Does Not Define Their Character

Behavior does not define someone’s character. It is an indication that the person is dealing with an issue that they cannot handle. It is a way of informally communicating with you as a cry for help but if you are not operating from a place of love, it will be hard for you to pick up the signals and effectively communicate with them. You will not be able to render help to them when needed.

Labeling others also serves as an avenue for fear to begin to operate in your life. You will awaken your ego as a self-defense mechanism. This will drive you further away from your true essence quicker than you know.

The goal in life should be to see others as yourself and treat others as you want to be treated. This is pure evidence that you understand what love truly means and can extend the love that you have to others.

Learn to Discern

You have to learn to discern what is going on with others than label them based on where you are operating from. This revelation should also lead to you working on yourself to become better so that you can see others as you see yourself and operate from a place of love not hurt.

Be Supportive

You may not be able to render help directly but you may be able to provide them with resources that can help them heal and improve their lifestyles. Be mindful of labeling others. You may end up labeling yourself and revealing a lot about yourself in the process.

We must all strive to become better while pulling each other up than tearing each other down with labels that are meaningless. Life should be about love…loving yourself, loving others and seeing them as yourself while also supporting each other to grow to the fullest potential.

“Ego speaks from a place of pride. Judgement comes from a place of pain. Courage speaks from a place of humility. Correction comes from a place of love. Where are you operating from?” – Kemi Sogunle, Excerpt, “Beyond the Pain.” Copyright ©2014. All Rights Reserved.

Do you struggling with hiding pain/trauma or do you need to heal from painful past/trauma? Learn more about coaching with me or email: coaching@kemisogunle.com.

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