3 Reasons Why You Should Never Have Expectations in a Relationship

Everyone has expectations (either set or gradually developed). However, expectations lead to disappointments and can leave you brokenhearted.

Here are 3 reasons why you should not set expectations when going into a relationship or while in one:

1. Your partner will never be perfect - If you have expectations that your partner will be perfect and get everything right, you will set yourself up for a failed relationship. Always remember, no one is perfect and will ever be. Accept your partner as is (not based on facial or physical values). Gradually build on each other's development and growth and let love lead the way.

2. You are both from different backgrounds and upbringing - Your partner did not grow up like you and may not have had the same experience as you have. Take time to know and understand your partner. Understanding is deeper than knowing and allows you to embrace your partner and his/her journey without passing judgement.

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3. You are both still emerging - You and your partner are still emerging and becoming more as you go and grow along your journey. There are various times when your priorities will change. If you set expectations, you may end up feeling burnt out when things do not go your way. Learn to grow with your partner. Re-evaluate your needs and ensure you are both on the same page.

Do not focus on falling in love but love each other deeply while you are both willing to make sacrifices based on your commitment to one another.

Read this: Falling in Love vs. Loving Someone

Learn to build a solid foundation that cannot be shaken. Leave third parties out and be each other's support and rock. Be patient with each other and never compare your relationship with that of others. Always remember that no one can be like both of you and your relationship is unique.

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