Three Ways You Can Boost Your Child’s Positive Outlook

Every parent wants a child to succeed and become the very best in life. We however may approach this wrongly with the way we hold conversations with our children. Some of us are used to the old ways of doing things and we are not willing to be flexible with parenting.

Here are three ways you can change your child’s positive outlook at life and be flexible with your parenting skills:

Be Friends First

Some parents prefer not to be friends with their children but just want to hold the parent role so strictly that the child becomes a rebel in the process.

You have to learn to be friends with your children. Allow your children into your world and let them see the real picture of what you go through. You do not have to explain everything to them. Children today are wiser than we sometimes think they are. Letting them into our world gives them the opportunity to see the real deal and know it is not always easy. Roses do come with thorns and yet still blossom.

Pray and Talk with Them in the Mornings and at Night

I have the privilege of dropping my son off at school some mornings and we pray before driving off the parking lot. After praying together, we have a dialogue that sets a positive pace for our day. The little nuggets of wisdom you sow into a child’s life each day goes a long way without you realizing the difference it makes. Praying before going to bed also helps de-clutter the mind of any negativity that was acquired during the course of the day. A positive mind can only think of positive thoughts.

Dedicate Some Hours or A Day for “My Child and I” Moments

Take a day off or some hours during the week to make it a personal time with each child you have. Organize an event, cook with them, have a picnic in your yard or go on a date. Doing this allows you to get a deeper sense of what is going on in the life of your child. We may sit with it and watch TV but one-on-one time with each child lets you into a bigger picture of his/her world that you may never know existed.

We do not just want to be parents and continue to tell them to “do as we say.” We have to allow our children to develop their own personality and not insist that they be like us. Each child is born uniquely and with his/her purpose and gifts. Allow your children to be who they are while you be a friend and parent to them. Watch closely and see the difference in your relationship with them as you also allow communication to flow easily without enforcement. There will be time for parenting and there will be time for friendship. You will definitely know how to differentiate between the two once you leave for free-flowing communication.

The memories we build when we deposit nuggets of wisdom are priceless. Children do not just listen but they watch us parents live and deduce from our ways. Let us set the pace for a long-lasting relationship of love, help set the pace for our children and grandchildren by daily boosting and influence positivity in their lives not to make them become bitter but to help make their lives better.

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