Five Ways to Regain Your Self-Confidence and Esteem

Relationships can lead to disappointments and losing one’s self-confidence/esteem when such end. This results in you becoming broken (after a breakup, separation or divorce) and not knowing what to do. You may plan, plot and execute a revenge instead of taking the time to heal. Your plan is usually a pre-meditated thought in the conscious or subconscious. You may also result in isolating yourself from the world but doing this does not help you move forward. Here are a few ways to gain your self-confidence/esteem back.

1. Take Time to Reflect on What Happened

Reflect on what happened and find the lessons therein. Do not dwell on what went wrong or the pain incurred but on the takeaways that will help you going forward. Keep a journal to document your lessons and experiences. There will be no lesson if everything goes on smoothly. In the lessons lie your blessings. Hold on to the lessons as they teach you going forward. Learn and grow as needed. This is the beginning of soul searching which continues into the healing process.

2. Forgive Yourself

Holding on to bitterness, resentment, anger or strife does not serve you in any way. Learn to find forgiveness in the midst of the lessons and as you own up to your moments. Remind yourself that you now know better as you forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself and those that may have hurt you frees you from the thoughts of pain and bond to the past.

3. Take Time to Heal
   Once you have forgiven yourself and those that hurt you, take the time to heal. Healing involves deep soul search to find hidden issues you have forgotten about. Address each issue and detach from them.

4. Use Daily Affirmations
   Daily affirmations are a good for building your confidence and staying positive. A positive mindset can only yield positive results. The more you focus on positivity, the more your thought process become align with reality. You will start to embrace the real you and regain your confidence. Post them on the bathroom mirror and stick them to your refrigerator. Place them anywhere visible and recite them throughout the day.

5. Connect with Your Spirituality

Connect with your inner being and ask God to heal you completely, as you lay everything on the altar. The more you connect with your spirituality, the more you become fully aware of who you really are. You will start to love yourself more knowing that The Creator made you complete and you embrace your being, own your moments while celebrating the real you always.

Once you have regained your self-confidence, carry yourself in ways that reflect the new you. Dress up sharply. Groom yourself up nicely. Maintain a healthy lifestyle and diet. Learn to pay attention to details so you do not get hurt again. Do not give someone who broke you another chance to hurt you. Know your worth, value, love yourself deeply, and always believe in yourself.

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