Four Signs You Are Self-Sabotaging

We all have goals but accomplishing those may be challenging. You may find yourself feeling tired of not being able to reach your goals, tweaking and re-tweaking your goals but not getting any further or not finding the drive to meet any of the goals you set.

The problem sometimes may have to do with the goals you are setting and the way you are going about setting them. You may have great goals but if you are self-sabotaging yourself you may never get to accomplish any. I see this behavior in most of my clients and it keeps them from taking any action that will help them move from where they are to where they need to be. I have also held conversations with potential clients who have exhibited the same.

You may know what you need but getting to the other side of it may seem impossible thus leaving you stuck. Do you find yourself doing any of these?

1. Your thoughts are holding you back
   You find yourself focusing on the negative thoughts than the positive ones. You find yourself over-analyzing and over thinking about a situation. Your thoughts have created limited beliefs and fear that now hold you back from moving forward. You are constantly at a battle with your thoughts. Reality is that the more you wrestle with your thoughts, the longer it will take for you to get out of your comfort zone. The easier it becomes to develop limited beliefs and remain stuck.
2. You focus on the “what ifs”
   You evaluate every situation and keep asking yourself the question “what if?” The truth is that those questions are based on fear and often times than not, hold you back from moving forward. This is one of the reasons many settle for a relationship less than they deserve. Fear can only hold you back as long as you allow it.
3. You don’t want to get uncomfortable
   Comfort can be good and can be detrimental. You see, I had to get uncomfortable with the old me. I sat for 15 years trying to have someone else take ownership of my life and realized I was not living but existing. I got tired of it and had to make a shift. I had thought about the finances and how I did not really see the need to invest in myself. All that changed when I decided to get out of my comfort zone.I began to invest in myself by securing coaches who held me accountable. I no longer thought about the finances as I had to readjust my spending and it paid off. I wanted to accomplish all the goals I had set for myself but had put on hold. I wanted to get out of my own way. I had to stop being my own enemy. You cannot go far by sitting comfortable. God will sometimes shake you out of your comfort zone to get you to where you need to be but you have to be willing to make that move. No more excuses!

“Life will test you and push you to grow but you have the choice to stay on track and push yourself to become better, stronger and wiser or you can choose to stay back and be bitter. Your choice…your reality.” – Kemi Sogunle ©2014. All Rights Reserved.

4. You keep procrastinating

You always leave everything till tomorrow. The truth is that no one knows if tomorrow will exist and without making any attempt to accomplish your goals while you still have the present moment, you may never go far to fulfill your purpose. Never leave anything you can do today until tomorrow. Tomorrow may never come and you will only keep pushing things aside from day to day without accomplishing any of your goals.

What goals do you have to set and need to accomplish? It could be life or relationship related but without you making necessary changes to meet your goals, you will continue to self-sabotage and deny yourself the life you truly deserve to have. You sometimes have to get out of your own way and just do it!

Need support getting your life and relationship goals met or defined? Don’t know how to stop self-sabotaging yourself? If you answered yes to any of the questions, Learn about life and relationship coaching with me. Get the support you need to get you fired up and living the live you truly deserve.

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