What Men Need to Know About Women

We all dream or crave for a long-lasting relationship…one in which both parties are getting along, feel fulfilled and have a few hiccups here and there but that does not happen in most cases.

What happens after a meet up and first date determines how far a relationship will go and grow.  The first stage ,should be friendship and while the friendship is in progress, a man may develop the urge to jump in bed right off the bat. The woman may also give in due to high emotions or longing to be with someone after being alone for a while.

Men need to see women differently to ensure that her emotions are not mixed up with facing reality. Here are a few things you need to know:

Do not just see her as a sex object but as a partner who is willing to be there for you and with you through the good and bad times. Get to know and understand the woman you are dating. Discover if the relationship can go further or remain on a friendship level. Help her understand that a relationship is more than sex by getting her engaged and involved in some of the activities you enjoy.

Men need to realize that women are delicate, sensitive, and emotional though they may appear tough (but are soft). It is wise to be honest about what you are looking for in a woman. Do not deceive her by making her believe that the relationship is for keeps, if you have no plans for commitment. Lying to her will only damage your credibility and character.

Men also need to learn to be more patient with women. Do not ignore her when she talks (no, she is not nagging) but listen and reason with her point of view. You do not have to agree with everything said but you can respond in a tone that will not lead to a heated conversation. Get her involved in some of the activities you participate in so that it does not seem you do not care or show affection. We all know men are wired differently but showing her  you care and love her, gives room for her to continuously appreciate you as her partner. Do not lose a good woman by not been patient or by lying to her. Let her know and understand the real you. Do not see all women as the same.

Let her know and understand you by communicating your messages without holding them back. We all know women talk more than men. However, when communicating with her, do not hold back your words because you think you will offend her. Do not hold back your emotions or feelings about anything.  Find ways to communicate your message in a subtle and loving manner that will help her understand your words. This eliminates assumptions or perceptions that may not be real. Get her involved in things that interests you (and vice versa) and help her feel comfortable with you.

It takes teamwork. Be willing to get involved, show support and help her with some of the chores that seem to overwhelm her. It will become easier for her to meet your needs and not seem always worn out/tired when it comes to you making love to your spouse. Do not see your relationship in the light of what culture, society or tradition thinks it should be but rather in the way you both want it to work and last.

See her as your accountability partner and work together to be best friends and beyond. It takes two people to build a great relationship together  through commitment, dedication, love, trust and loyalty among other things.

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