Five Marriage Myths You Need to Discard

Marriage is a sacred union but some tend to discard the purity that comes with it. This is usually due to emotions that cloud your judgement and decision making. Being desperate while lonely as a single person, drives you to believe marriage myths that serve as hinderances to having a healthy relationship with your spouse.

Here are 5 myths that you should discard if you plan on having a long-lasting, healthy and purposeful marriage:

Time is not on your side
How many relationships have you rushed into with this myth? How have the relationships turned out? Time has nothing to do with marriage. Rushing into a relationship can allow a partner to camouflage his/her true identity at the beginning. You only come to discover after a few months the partner’s true colors and your expectations are now let down.

You must have a big wedding
The society has created a fad that you must have a big wedding to get married but no one factors in the financial impact it has on both parties and their families. The amount spent on the wedding can be used for investments that can help the couple along their journey to a successful and healthy marriage.You can plan a classy wedding that will not break the bank while having those who you are planning to invite, contribute towards the ceremony.

You have to test drive your partner for sex before the wedding
People think that without having sex with a partner before the wedding, he or she may not be good in bed. Reality is that ‘love making’ in marriage is something you both develop and not the lust or self-seeking craving.Abstinence and waiting allows you to know and understand your partner better without allowing sex to cloud your judgement. It is important that you understand everything about your partner to know what will work best for both of you.

Marriage will change you or your partner
Getting married does not change anyone neither does the thought that marriage will make things better. Love is a process where you both are working together to grow and discover each other. It is a process of becoming as you both evolve to discover the purpose of your union.Never let anyone change you into who God never created you to be and do not try to change your partner. Marriage is about collaboration and you both emerge into a higher level individually and as a couple, you discover what works best for both partners.

Cohabitation equals marriage
Living with your partner does not equate to marriage. Getting comfortable with each other is one thing but your partner can still hide their dark side from you while living together. Your partner may get tired of having you around and someday decide this is not the relationship they deserve. What happens next?I have had clients who lived together for 10, 12, 15 years and their partners ended up marrying someone else. Cohabitation makes you settle and believe that you are now married. On the other hand, if your partner feels you are not compatible, you may be left with no where to go and it will be more disappointing should it happen.

Value, develop and discover yourself. Love yourself deeply.

Set your core values and requirements. Learn to be patient and allow God to lead you to the right partner. Be the woman to be found. Be the man who knows and can identify his missing rib.

Always remember, your partner will be a reflection of you, your values and requirements. Your purpose will be in alignment and you will not have to compromise yourself or settle for less.