Five Things You Should Not Do On a First Date

Dating should be about having fun and getting to know each other. You may sometimes find yourself getting over your head or fantasizing about your date at first sight. Here are five things you should never do on a first date:

Never pretend

Never put up a façade on a first date. Be yourself and remain authentic. Let your partner get a good grip of who you are from the onset. Pretending to be who you are may ruin things from day one. Relax and enjoy the conversation and company.

Do not get too excited

Do not get too excited. Remain calm and pay close attention. Listen carefully and figure out if you want to continue dating or if it you will cut it short and remain friends. Allowing your emotions to run wild can lead to you giving out the cookie jar too early in the game.

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Do not talk about your past or ex

Do not bring your past dates or ex (and how awful they have been) to the table on your first date. This will end up turning your date off. It may also seem like you have not healed from your previous relationship and are still hurting. It also does not make you look good especially on a first date.

Do not be a chatterbox

Do not be the only person dominating the conversation. Give your date the opportunity to get to know you. Do not appear too egocentric either. Learn to listen, be slow to speak and respond appropriately to questions without being defensive. Be yourself without talking too much.

Do not be late

Get to the location you are meeting on time. If you are running late, call your date up to let him/her know you are running late. Lateness should not be more than five to ten minutes. You would not want anyone to keep you waiting especially on a first date.

Pay close attention, listen and don’t forget about your requirements; look out for the body language and engage in eye-to-eye conversations that will allow you decipher your date within the first few minutes of the night. Be yourself and do not overreact to anything. Relax and enjoy the moment while learning to know more about each other. Remember, it is a first date not a night of assumptions that your relationship will go to the next level.

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