Five Ways Women Drive Away Potential Dates

Do you think you are a woman who has all it takes to attract and keep a man? Do you have any idea of why you cannot seem to keep the men you meet to stay in a relationship?

If this sounds familiar, you may want to consider if you are making any of the following mistakes that drive away potential dates:

You have unrealistic expectations

You have created a laundry list of what you are looking for in a man and it all looks like something from the movies. You may be dreaming of having an “Idris Elba” or “Eric Benet” but you have to realize men are different and outward looks can be very deceptive. If you do not get to know the man behind the looks, you may never really realize his full potentials, which means you, are going to miss out of opportunities of discovering the man you just met.

Dating should be fun and exploratory. It is not a one-time date and know who the man is on the same day. It is a gradual process of discovery.

Give up those unrealistic expectations, quit waiting for him to open the door always, learn to relax and have fun. Think about it as you going on a shopping spree and trying on different dresses before knowing what actually fits.

You are too demanding

You expect someone who will be committed before getting to know the real you. You constantly talk about commitment and not wanting a time waster. This actually makes you sound and look desperate.

You need to relax and allow things flow naturally. You should at least date for three to four months before you start thinking of anything. Remember, you do not know him well and you do not want to rush things that you will later regret.

You expect him to be the one providing you with your wants right from the very start. Do not keep talking about your wants. Dating is about two people learning to know if the relationship is worth taking to the next level while getting to know each other.

Slow down your thought process and demands. You may need to work on your personal issues first before looking for someone who will solve them for you.

The phone calls are driving him insane

He has not called you for a while and you have decided to chase him around with your phone calls. You want to know where he is at all times and why he has not called you. You have to learn to give a man his space.

When you learn to respect his space, you will enjoy the time you spend together. You have to remember that you are not the only person in his life. He may be testing you by not calling all the time or it may be that he is busy or giving you space for your “me” time. Always wait for an explanation before jumping to conclusions about why he has not called.

I know you may say there are male players but you can easily tell if a man is playing or not. If you try to call once and he sends you a message that he will call back, learn to wait for his return call before picking up your phone to dial again.

You are too clingy

You want to be around him all the time and want everyone to know that you are both dating. You have to learn to be independent. Some men do not like clingy women. You have to learn to be your own person and do not expect him to treat you like his daughter. You should act like a grown woman that you are.

Stop trying to play the role of his mother as well. You are still a girlfriend and it is still dating. He has the choice to walk away and find someone else that will meet up to his standards.

 All your friends know your business

Your friends have all the information about the two of you. You cannot seem to stop talking about what your friends think about your relationship. Your friends are not you and you need to be able to take responsible of your decisions.

Keep your relationship between the two of you. No one needs to know what is going on between the two of you. Adding third parties to your business only destroys what you have. A relationship should be between two people and not more.

Once you know you are ready to date, stop doing all the above and learn to be you. No need pretending or become too demanding. Do not be overly suspicious of his movements or business. Do not act desperate either.

Learn to take a day at a time and let things wrong smoothly. This is the only way you will find out if the relationship will go further or not. Doing this will get you into the arms of the right man.

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