How to Find the Love You Deserve

Have you ever wondered why you have not found the love you deserve? Are you getting frustrated about finding your match? What you need is not far from you, you just may need to look closer and within.

We often have after thoughts of dating the wrong partner, especially when we think we have finally met “the one.” The breakup happens suddenly and it can become overwhelming especially, if you keep meeting the wrong match over again.

The first step to finding the love you deserve starts with you finding yourself.

How do you view yourself in terms of loving yourself enough? It begins with you loving yourself completely.

What words would you use to describe yourself? How much attention do you pay to your character and personality?

Below are some pointers that will help you find the answers you need and lead you towards finding the love you truly deserve:

Self-Love Starts with You

It is not about looking good on the outside alone but about believing in yourself completely. Start viewing
yourself as love and in the eyes of the one you deserve to be with as well as who deserve to love you for who you
are. How you treat and accept yourself sets the pace for how others will treat and accept you.

“If you don't love yourself, you won't be happy with yourself. If you can't love yourself, you can't love anyone else. You can't give the love you do not have. You can't make anyone love you without loving yourself first.” ― Kemi Sogunle, Excerpt, "Being Single"

Change the way you think
Your thoughts can help shape or break you. You cannot have a positive attitude with negative outcomes. When you align your thoughts with positivity, it will reflect in everything you do and help attract the right people into your life.

“What you feed your mind, will lead your life.” ― Kemi Sogunle, Excerpt, "On Becoming Restored."

Learn to embrace your flaws

Accept yourself as you are (with your flaws). God has a purpose for creating you ‘perfectly imperfect.’ No one is perfect and you will not find the perfect partner. You will find one who will love you for who you are. The one who deserve to love you will be willing to embrace you and your flaws without a doubt.

Spend time pampering yourself

Take some time out to pamper yourself. Go on a trip, give yourself a spa treatment gift, go on a self date or night out, or attend a concert. Build up your self-confidence; Become comfortable in your own skin and company.

The moment you start to treat yourself the way you want to be treated, you will stop accepting and allowing anything less than you deserve. The love you have for yourself will draw the attention of the one to love and be with you.

“Pain and love cannot be in the same space. You can never love anyone in pain. You cannot truly love yourself in pain. The more pain you carry in your heart, the harder it becomes to love anyone including yourself.”
― Kemi Sogunle, Excerpt, "Beyond the Pain."

Do not limit yourself to finding love in places you are comfortable visiting. Do not spend your days and nights off at home either. You cannot meet someone hanging out at home while watching TV with popcorn in hand. Be willing to step outside of your comfort zone. Attend network mixes, professional events, seminars or conferences for singles and you will definitely meet people who are like-minded as you.

It is not an easy process but the results speak for themselves. Do these for a few months and see what happens next!

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